What Is Divorce Coaching?

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Going through a divorce can be one of the most challenging times of your life.  There are so many emotions involved, including hurt, anger, grief, anxiety, fear, etc.  There are so many unknowns and you may feel completely overwhelmed at the turmoil and upheaval caused by splitting up.  Your friends and family may have their own opinions of what steps you should take, and, while very well-meaning, they may have certain biases and may not know all of the specifics of your situation.  This means that their advice may not be what is best for you.  In some cases, they may even be fueling the fire and actually escalating the negativity and the potential court battle, by the advice that they provide.  Sometimes, they can create even more confusion for you, in an already confusing and complicated situation.  


You will absolutely need a shoulder to lean on/someone to vent to, but it may be difficult to share certain details with friends and family.  A divorce coach can be a partner that you can lean on throughout the divorce process.  They can listen to you vent in moments of difficulty; they can offer you a sense of calm and peace when your life seems like it is upside down; they can provide you with an objective view of your situation and the options available to you.  You can speak freely with them without fear of judgement and about details that you may not feel comfortable discussing with friends or family.  A divorce coach does not provide legal advice, but can help you navigate through your divorce with a sense of feeling supported, empowered and knowledgeable about the demands and challenges that lie ahead of you both during and after the divorce. 


Remember, that while your lawyer is skilled at dealing with the legal aspects of your divorce, it is not his/her job to support you emotionally during this difficult time.  Calling or emailing them to vent, as opposed to contacting them simply to complete a legal document/process or provide legal advice, can add thousands of dollars unnecessarily to an already costly process.  A divorce coach, on the other hand, will cost much less per hour, and may be able to help you rein in your emotions, in order to move forward with the divorce more strategically and with less negativity.  Obtaining the help of a divorce coach can actually help you reduce your overall legal costs by helping you calm the storm. 


As a CPA, CA, I have a solid financial background and can help guide you in your thought process about the financial and property considerations during divorce.  As an accredited family mediator, I can help guide you through different options for parenting plans.  As a person who has gone through divorce myself, I understand all of the emotions you are feeling and can help you find the resources you need and can provide you with the support you need, to restore peace in your life.  I can help you avoid common mistakes newly separated people make that end up making the process longer, more costly (both financially and emotionally) and more stressful.  I can provide you with a healthy, safe, supportive environment to think through your options, your strategy, your goals and your needs.  My coaching process of helping you with self-reflection will ultimately help you obtain clarity and direction for moving forward with empowerment, strength, intention, knowledge and most importantly, a feeling of calmness and positivity. 


In my coaching practice, you are in charge.  You decide what we focus on.  You decide how much time we spend.  You decide your ultimate next step forward.  By taking back your control, through empowering yourself with knowledge, I help you set realistic expectations, which will help you find your inner strength to move forward strategically and intelligently.   There is life after divorce and I will support you through the process, one step at a time. 



* Life can be very busy. To help reduce the time and stress of fitting in coaching sessions, I offer divorce coaching sessions over the phone at times that are convenient for you. 




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